Deep Dating
Deep Dating is a three-session series where a small group explores life’s big questions through guided conversations about shared readings & films. It’s a chance to build real connections—without the noise of swiping or small talk. If a connection sparks, we’ll help you take the next step.
Deep Dating is a three-session series for people who want to connect through real conversation, not small talk. A small group gathers once a week for three weeks to explore life’s big questions through guided dialogue and shared readings or short films. Along the way, you’ll meet thoughtful, curious people—and if a spark happens, we’ll help you take the next step.
Deep Dating is for anyone who’s open to real connection, thoughtful conversation, and meaningful reflection.
We plan to offer future Deep Dating groups for a range of age groups, orientations, and matching preferences—because everyone deserves a space to connect deeply, no matter where they are in life.
Deep Dating isn’t about performing or pitching yourself—it’s about being yourself. You’ll connect through real conversation, exploring questions that matter and stories that spark reflection. Instead of swiping, you’re making meaning together, side by side.
Psychological research shows that shared exploration (especially of meaningful topics) creates a stronger bond than surface-level dating. We're not just here for chemistry; we're here for curiosity and connection.
Each session is centered around a big, thoughtful question and a short reading or film. A skilled facilitator will guide the conversation so that everyone has a chance to reflect, connect, and listen. You’ll talk in small groups and sometimes in pairs, but it’s never a performance—it’s about making sense together.
That’s more than okay. Deep Dating is about real connection in all its forms. Sometimes connection looks like romance. Sometimes it looks like an unexpected friendship—or a deeper understanding of yourself.
After the final session, you’ll have the option to express interest in either a one-on-one connection or a follow-up friendship session with anyone from the group.
And if you want to keep exploring, you’ll get 20% off your next Deep Dating series.
After the final session, you’ll have a chance to confidentially let Premise know who you’d be curious to see again—whether for a potential date or a follow-up friendship connection.
If two people name each other for either kind of connection, we’ll make the introduction. No awkward moments. No pressure. Just a simple, thoughtful next step.
Yes, there is a registration fee that covers all three sessions. The fee supports our facilitators, materials, and hosting costs. (We believe meaningful connection is worth investing in—and we do our best to keep it accessible.)
Just yourself, an open mind, and a willingness to dive in. Before each session, you’ll receive a short reading or film to engage with. Preparation will take about 1–2 hours each week.
One of the advantages of participating in Deep Dating is that the preparation itself is part of the experience. You'll grow wiser through reflection, feel intellectually nourished by the materials, and show up to each session with more to offer—and more to discover about yourself and others.
Real connection doesn't usually happen in a flash—it grows through shared experience, curiosity, and conversation.
Deep Dating is designed as a three-session series because meaningful sparks often need space to develop. When you explore big questions side by side, you build a foundation of understanding and trust—both essential ingredients for real chemistry.
One conversation can open the door. Three conversations can create something lasting.
Deep Dating is designed for people who love to learn, who connect through a world of ideas, and who believe that great conversations build great connections.
If you’re curious, reflective, and excited to get to know someone beyond the usual scripts, you’ll feel right at home. Deep Dating is about meeting others by making sense together—not just matching profiles, but exploring what matters most.
Ready for a different way to connect?
Deep Dating is open for registration in Portland.
San Francisco, Seattle, Washington, D.C., Boston, and more cities coming soon!
How it works
Three guided sessions focused on life’s enduring questions.
Each session anchored by a short film, story, essay, or poem. Preparation takes less than two hours.
Facilitated conversations that open the door to real connection.
Private matching process after the series if mutual interest is expressed.
